It begins when we're just born!

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CCartwrightJones
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It begins when we're just born!

When you were just born, your parents altered your body in one way or another, to make your body "appropriate" for acceptance into their cultural group.  If they failed to do that, people could have regarded them as unfit parents!

Parents have marked and adorned this baby for a photograph to present the newest member of their family to their world (who would probably make approving social noises).

What things had your parents done to alter your body by the time you were one year old?  What things were done to suit their religion?  What things were done to suit their social class? What things were done to announce your gender to other people (presumably, that was covered most of the time)? 

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http://www.flickr.com/photos/50164213@N02/4604498946/

oops! Here's your picture!

And then, say aaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwww cute!
 

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My parents didn't really do anything that I can recall, beyond dressing us in "girly" clothes complete with frills until we proved to be too rambunctious for ruffles and lace (we were all tree-climbers as kids, though we're markedly less active now).

My mother wanted to pierce my ears and my sisters' ears when we were babies, but my father wanted us to make that choice for ourselves. I didn't get it done until I was 15, but my younger sister had hers pierced at age 6 (because our cousin, three months R's junior, got hers pierced, and R and W did EVERYthing the same when they were little) and my baby sister had hers pierced at 14. There was no particular cultural jewelry, makeup, or clothes that I can recall. Just your standard white-bread American household.

I dress my son in boy clothes. I suppose I "should" have had him circumcised, if I was going to follow my cultural and religious norms (I grew up Baptist), but I didn't. Purely because our insurance didn't cover it and I didn't have the money. He's four and a half, and I'm not going to put him through that procedure at this point. There's no need, so far as I can tell; he's never had an infection or an issue there. Besides, my fiance is uncircumcised (I don't know if that's an Indian thing or if his parents just never bothered), so there won't be an explanations when he's older on why his boy parts look different from Daddy's.

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Re: It begins when we're just born!

My folks pierced my ears when I was a baby.

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Don't you think it starts actually already before child is born - the urge to know the sex of your child. Endless shopping for pink clothes for girlies and a bit more limited shopping for blue ones for boys. Rally-cars one boys room and princesses for girls... Some parents take ultrasound procedure every time to see is everything OK and to make sure the sex. But it still happens even now that this procedure mistakes - she will be born and has rallycared room with blue bed waiting for her, he ... From my childhood I do remember this and I notice it even now with my child - girls can wear anykind of clothing. Boys have boys clothing. Girls somehow fit into blue world, boys... people tend to think This 'falls off' when he has pink bed and plays with Barbies. And it is not for the sake girls can have and do everything. Girls just have to adopt into, fit in and be more flexible and probably less demanding.
Parents take it SO seriously when it comes to appearance. And sometimes you can feel the pressure - why are you buying green clothes? Don't you know the sex of your child? What does it mean you don't like pink linen - she is a girl, for god's sake...?
And then she will be rised up to feel ashamed and shape into norms her body - nude children on beach is absolutely disgusting for some people,  she has her first bra at the age of 3 (swimsuit for cuties to look SO normal, femininely covered and proper) and then she has gel-filled bra at age 7...

Don't you think sometimes that actually we are somehow back in Medieval Ages or any other historical period where there was almost no childhood as bodily marked period. Boys and girls are again just tiny adults, dressed and showed up as so.

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I hadn't really thought about "before birth" because I had children before that was available ... but yes. 

"Tiny adults".  Have you searched Youtube for child beauty pageant?  Seriously altered bodies!

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I grew up a tomboy, dressed in my brother's hand-me-down sweatshirts and jeans. So as far as myself is concerned, I don't believe I was subjected to any kind of "norm", although I seen a lot of "girlie girls" around me and at times longed to be one of them. Social pressure was my earliest concern.

I had my oldest son circumcised, in conformation to society. What a horrible choice that was! Poor little guy got an infection and spent his first two weeks of life in unimaginable pain. When I had my second and third son I opted out of that little barbaric procedure, especially after I talked with a doctor and found out it was not medically or hygenically necessary whatsoever. And if we're talking religion, just take a look at Galatians 5:6. I rest my case on that subject.

I appreciate originality and non-conformers. I chose henna because it's natural, but I also feel like I'm operating "outside of the box" every time I use it! Now, if I could just get the perfect color I'm my grey roots....

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Nothing really- didn't get my ears pierced until I was 6 or 7 years old because *I* wanted them done.

For about the first six months I even wore boys clothes. My parents were convinced I was a boy so they bought all "boy" things- the doctor said (when I was born) "It's a girl!" and my mom said "Are you sure?" *LOL* I was a tomboy since before birth I guess.

Instead of barbies, I played with trucks. *laughs* when I DID play with barbies, I cut their hair all off, painted them and ripped their heads off.

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